Scruples Are A Good Thing
Listening to Your Inner Voice
By F. John Reh, About.com Guide
I believe most people are good and honest. I believe that most managers act in ways that are beneficial for their employers and their employees. I do not believe that most of us are driven to take from others regardless of the cost. Certainly we have seen enough proof recently that there are unscrupulous people running businesses, but most managers are honest, scrupulous people.
Having scruples, or being scrupulous, means sometimes having doubts about doing something because it might not be right, because it might go against your principles. We all have an inner voice telling us when something we are considering isn't right. We might not always listen to it, but it is always there. As a manager, one of the best things you can do is to listen to your inner voice. If something isn't right, if your scruples kick in, if your inner voice tells you not to do it - listen. There is a reason for it.
Do you want your fifteen minutes of fame because of something you did well or are you willing to settle for fifteen minutes of infamy for having lied, cheated, or stolen?
The Voice Inside You
Sure, it can be tempting to take the easy way out, to tell a small lie because no one will be able to prove you lied, to claim credit for someone else's work because they work for you. Yet you will always know that is the wrong choice. Your inner voice will tell you.
Some people are better at ignoring their inner voice than others. They think they can talk loud enough, live fast enough, that they can drown out their inner voice. They can't. It's always there. So is yours.
The Upside
When you have scruples, when you listen to your inner voice, life is easier.
•You never have to remember your story
If you always tell the truth, you don't have to worry about what you told who.
•You are more effective
When you know you are doing the right thing, it is easier for you to get behind it and push to make it a success.
•You sleep better
When your inner voice isn't nagging you, you sleep more soundly. You aren't fighting with yourself.
The Downside
If you decide to ignore your inner voice, there will be consequences. They may not be obvious or immediate, but they will come.
•You will be found out
Regardless of how clever you are, or how practiced a liar you become, you will slip up. Someone will catch you in your lie.
•You will be less effective
You will spend so much time and energy covering your tracks that you will get less done.
•You won't like yourself very much
Even if no one else knows, you will know.
Manage this issue
The easiest course of action for any manager, the best course, the most effective, is to follow your inner voice. If something seems wrong, don't do it. If you use that moral compass as your guide, you will be a better manager and you will like yourself more. Others will sense it too, and you will be a better manager.
MY THOUGHTS
being scrupulous! listening to that voice that only you can hear. the voice inside that makes you uncomfortable. only if you know what's right and what's wrong. coz if you don't, there won't be an inner voice. and you won;t know until it's too late.
Tuesday, June 29, 2010
Wednesday, March 31, 2010
no matter how good a person you are
Strengthen a Trait
Daily Inspiration
By John H. Sklare, Ed.D, Lifescript Personal Coach
Published March 29, 2010
No matter how good of a person you are, you can always improve in certain areas. Maybe you could become a better listener, or perhaps you could use more patience. The list is endless and we all have our shortcomings in different areas. With that as our foundation today, I have a challenge for those of you who want to be better than you are. Here’s what I suggest you do.
Pick one area where you believe you could use some upgrading. Next, think of someone you admire who possesses and displays this particular characteristic. Finally, do your best to imitate that person in the area you’ve identified. Allow this person to motivate you to a higher level with regards to this trait. In other words, pick a trait and emulate!
MY THOUGHTS
Patience! Diplomacy! Kindness! Long suffering. I think i'd like to challenge myself on diplomacy. to be diplomatic i will need to be long suffering and kind and a lot of things. a real challenge!!!
Daily Inspiration
By John H. Sklare, Ed.D, Lifescript Personal Coach
Published March 29, 2010
No matter how good of a person you are, you can always improve in certain areas. Maybe you could become a better listener, or perhaps you could use more patience. The list is endless and we all have our shortcomings in different areas. With that as our foundation today, I have a challenge for those of you who want to be better than you are. Here’s what I suggest you do.
Pick one area where you believe you could use some upgrading. Next, think of someone you admire who possesses and displays this particular characteristic. Finally, do your best to imitate that person in the area you’ve identified. Allow this person to motivate you to a higher level with regards to this trait. In other words, pick a trait and emulate!
MY THOUGHTS
Patience! Diplomacy! Kindness! Long suffering. I think i'd like to challenge myself on diplomacy. to be diplomatic i will need to be long suffering and kind and a lot of things. a real challenge!!!
where's your anger?
Where's Your Anger?
Daily Inspiration
By John H. Sklare, Ed.D, Lifescript Personal Coach
Published March 31, 2010
Anger can be a destructive emotion. The physical and emotional price is costly enough, but the disruption and danger that it brings to others can be devastating. So today I’d like you to do a little personal self-assessment regarding the place that anger plays in your life. Some people can undergo all sorts of physical and/or emotional attacks and never unleash the anger inside them. Whereas others will blow up if you accidentally look at them the wrong way at the wrong moment.
The reality is that we all maintain conscious or unconscious distances from our anger. The rule of thumb is that the further away you are from anger, the safer and better off you and those around you are. If your anger is balancing on some kind of a weak hair-trigger, then you tend to snap very quickly. But those who can learn to maintain a safe emotional distance from their anger both physically and mentally benefit in a variety of ways. In a relationship, I suggest that you keep this in mind and take a measure of this emotion in any potential future partner as well. The news is full of horror stories about senseless violence over the most inconsequential of things. So where do you fall on this issue? Do you maintain a safe distance from your anger?
MY THOUGHTS
"The further away you are from anger" - this phrase alone should make us stop and think. What can get us close to or far from this destructive emotion? don't you notice that the happeier you are, the less angry you get? and how so easy it is for you to blow your top when you're stressed? What I've learned is that it pays to walk away - at least until after you've cooled down. then you're perspective would change and the anger somehow dissipates. i used to think that every isssue should be discussed. but there are issues that are much to big for us. that's when I let God take over. and the miracle starts to happen.
Daily Inspiration
By John H. Sklare, Ed.D, Lifescript Personal Coach
Published March 31, 2010
Anger can be a destructive emotion. The physical and emotional price is costly enough, but the disruption and danger that it brings to others can be devastating. So today I’d like you to do a little personal self-assessment regarding the place that anger plays in your life. Some people can undergo all sorts of physical and/or emotional attacks and never unleash the anger inside them. Whereas others will blow up if you accidentally look at them the wrong way at the wrong moment.
The reality is that we all maintain conscious or unconscious distances from our anger. The rule of thumb is that the further away you are from anger, the safer and better off you and those around you are. If your anger is balancing on some kind of a weak hair-trigger, then you tend to snap very quickly. But those who can learn to maintain a safe emotional distance from their anger both physically and mentally benefit in a variety of ways. In a relationship, I suggest that you keep this in mind and take a measure of this emotion in any potential future partner as well. The news is full of horror stories about senseless violence over the most inconsequential of things. So where do you fall on this issue? Do you maintain a safe distance from your anger?
MY THOUGHTS
"The further away you are from anger" - this phrase alone should make us stop and think. What can get us close to or far from this destructive emotion? don't you notice that the happeier you are, the less angry you get? and how so easy it is for you to blow your top when you're stressed? What I've learned is that it pays to walk away - at least until after you've cooled down. then you're perspective would change and the anger somehow dissipates. i used to think that every isssue should be discussed. but there are issues that are much to big for us. that's when I let God take over. and the miracle starts to happen.
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